The danger of being false positive
I have talked a lot about the power of positive thinking, but suppressing negative feelings in order to create a false positive attitude resolves nothing and may lead to feelings of failure in the long-term. If you are presenting a falsely positive attitude you could be doing more harm than good. It stops you having an honest dialogue with friends and family and you are not seeking the help you need.
Negative thoughts can be the key to uncovering deeper, underlying issues which need to be resolved. These thoughts need to be acknowledged, respected and understood, it is not healthy to suppress our negative emotions.
You can acknowledge and accept a negative feeling without getting stuck in that feeling, denying that you are feeling negative does not address the reason for it. If a negative feeling occurs at an inappropriate time, you can acknowledge it and promise to deal with it at another time, which is more productive than denying its existence. It is unrealistic to think we are only ever going to have positive thoughts. The aim is to not let negative feelings over-power you and to know that you are able to cope with them. Learning how to navigate the natural ebb and flow of life is a skill that most of us need to practice.
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